Analysis
THE PROCESS OF BRAINWASHING (MIND CONTROL)
Cyberpath Comparison
“DONNA YOU DON’T KNOW HOW HAPPY YOU HAVE MADE ME!!!!!!! I LOVE YOU!!!!! Tell all your friends and loved ones”
“You are my girl and I am falling in LOVE with you.”
“You r the LOVE I’ve been missing for years.“
The cyberpath puts forth a closed system of logic, and allows no real input or criticism.
“Donna, have u ever felt like this before, having never met, never made love, just two people expressing their emotions. This has never happened to one before.”
“Hi Honey, I’m happy because you love me even though we never met, I’m sad because I’m sitting here by myself. I wish U were here. I am very concerned for U”
Erotic Hypnosis & Hypno-Seduction - "The state of arousal is created to overcome resistance or, even better, to lead the victim of the seduction process to apparently take control of the situation, by performing the physical action ultimately desired by the seducer or the seductress."
“I can’t wait to shower with u so I can lather u up. Now use ur imagination.”
“We will make awesome love. We will talk and laugh. We will be HAPPY. I luve u.”
Seduction - Covert-aggressive personalities are adept at charming, praising, flattering or overtly supporting others in order to get them to lower their defenses and surrender their trust and loyalty.
The usual Cyberpath story line goes: “No one has ever really loved me, and certainly not my wife. She nags… doesn’t appreciate me… hates sex… too religious/ not religious enough... beats me/ beats kids/ kids beat me, etc...” (See: Beckstead, gridney aka Yidwithlid)
Women take this hook too often. …they will be able to make him “finally feel loved… listened to… appreciated.” His need is not “once and for all to be loved” as much as it is to get laid, be amused, play games and be distracted.
What is a Cyberpath?
Liking, Ingratiation
Getting the prospect into a good frame of mind
“You make my day so much brighter. It is a gorgeous day today.. I Love u honey, can’t wait to see u.”
“Do u like candy. I luv candy. Chocolate is my favorite.”
Moral Appeal
This tactic entails finding moral common ground, and then using the moral commitments of a person to obtain compliance.
“Donna, it’s not just about looks. When u find someone that gives u hope, laughter, life and happiness. That to me is true love. Did I ever tell u I love ur name, Donna.”
“Donna I know I’m not wasting my time. I have never seen u but I already know ur gorgeous. U know I’m not in this just for the looks/sex. I’m here for the LOVE”
Negative Altercasting
Only a bad person would do Y.
“My wife just came home bombed. What a disgrace. Normally we would argue and call each other names, but not tonight. My kids and I just laughed at her. It’s really sad”
Positive Esteem of Others
Other people will think more highly of you if you X
“I asked one of my co-workers if it is possible to fall in LOVE with someone u never met? My guys said they have never seen me smile this much.”
“I think my kids R happy for me. This is all new to them. They don’t understand how 2 people say they luv each other when they have never met. That what makes it”
“You are one in a million. I luv u even more. Have u said anything to ur daughter yet.”
Positive Self-feeling
You'll feel better if you X.
“Imagine when we are together. And yes, I’ll still respect you in the morning. Ur man, Jim”
“You don’t have any idea how hard it’s going to be having to wait to see you. U know when I see U what I’m going to say. Tell ur Mom, tell ur friends. U are special.”
A Cyberpath may be highly verbal about his relationships. He may share personal information in such a way that women mistake his sharing for emotional intimacy… He knows well enough that women are empathic to tales of empty and sad relationships…
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The cyberpath works to instill new behavior and attitudes in the victim.
The online predator trains to you behave in ways that he wants you to behave. He gradually makes you feel differently about yourself, and make you feel that everything you do, say or think - revolves around the cyberpath.
“Hi babe I’m trying to b good and wait till ur out of work but I cant. I want u to know that I can’t get u out of my mind. My heart is bursting. I want to make u happy. Our life together will b truth and love.”
“Remember what I told u, you have another home in Hamden. My wife NEVER goes there. When u get home I want u to have ur own key”
“I am counting down the days.”
“R U prepared to meet the challenges that lie ahead. It’s gonna get rough for u and me. I’m ready. Ur safety is first.”
“DONNA YOU DON’T KNOW HOW HAPPY YOU HAVE MADE ME!!!!!!! I LOVE YOU!!!!! Tell all your friends and loved ones”
“You are my girl and I am falling in LOVE with you.”
“You r the LOVE I’ve been missing for years.“
“Donna, have u ever felt like this before, having never met, never made love, just two people expressing their emotions. This has never happened to one before.”
“Hi Honey, I’m happy because you love me even though we never met, I’m sad because I’m sitting here by myself. I wish U were here. I am very concerned for U”
Erotic Hypnosis & Hypno-Seduction - The state of arousal is created to overcome resistance or, even better, to lead the victim of the seduction process to apparently take control of the situation, by performing the physical action ultimately desired by the seducer or the seductress.
“I can’t wait to shower with u so I can lather u up. Now use ur imagination.”
“We will make awesome love. We will talk and laugh. We will be HAPPY. I luve u.”
Seduction - Covert-aggressive personalities are adept at charming, praising, flattering or overtly supporting others in order to get them to lower their defenses and surrender their trust and loyalty.
The usual Cyberpath story line goes: “No one has ever really loved me, and certainly not my wife. She nags… doesn’t appreciate me… hates sex… too religious/ not religious enough... beats me/ beats kids/ kids beat me, etc...” (See: Beckstead, gridney aka Yidwithlid)
Women take this hook too often. …they will be able to make him “finally feel loved… listened to… appreciated.” His need is not “once and for all to be loved” as much as it is to get laid, be amused, play games and be distracted.
Liking, Ingratiation
Getting the prospect into a good frame of mind
“You make my day so much brighter. It is a gorgeous day today.. I Love u honey, can’t wait to see u.”
“Do u like candy. I luv candy. Chocolate is my favorite.”
Moral Appeal
This tactic entails finding moral common ground, and then using the moral commitments of a person to obtain compliance.
“Donna, it’s not just about looks. When u find someone that gives u hope, laughter, life and happiness. That to me is true love. Did I ever tell u I love ur name, Donna.”
“Donna I know I’m not wasting my time. I have never seen u but I already know ur gorgeous. U know I’m not in this just for the looks/sex. I’m here for the LOVE”
Negative Altercasting
Only a bad person would do Y.
“My wife just came home bombed. What a disgrace. Normally we would argue and call each other names, but not tonight. My kids and I just laughed at her. It’s really sad”
Positive Esteem of Others
Other people will think more highly of you if you X
“I asked one of my co-workers if it is possible to fall in LOVE with someone u never met? My guys said they have never seen me smile this much.”
“I think my kids R happy for me. This is all new to them. They don’t understand how 2 people say they luv each other when they have never met. That what makes it”
“You are one in a million. I luv u even more. Have u said anything to ur daughter yet.”
Positive Self-feeling
You'll feel better if you X.
“Imagine when we are together. And yes, I’ll still respect you in the morning. Ur man, Jim”
“You don’t have any idea how hard it’s going to be having to wait to see you. U know when I see U what I’m going to say. Tell ur Mom, tell ur friends. U are special.”
A Cyberpath may be highly verbal about his relationships. He may share personal information in such a way that women mistake his sharing for emotional intimacy… He knows well enough that women are empathic to tales of empty and sad relationships…
